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“Each Part – As Scary Or Illuminating Or Mysterious As It May Appear To Be – Can Offer Wisdom And Solace And Vision” – Alanis Morissette

Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy identifies 4 main “parts” or sub-personalities within us, each with unique roles that interact within our minds. Here’s a breakdown of each part, plus “Self,” the core aspect that guides healing:

1. Self: Think of Self as our calm, wise core. It’s the part of us that’s compassionate, confident, and clear-headed. Self isn’t a “part” but the true essence of who we are. In IFS, Self is like the leader or guide, capable of understanding and comforting all other parts. The goal of IFS is to help Self take the lead, promoting balance and healing.

2. Exiles: Exiles are vulnerable parts holding painful memories or emotions, often from childhood or past trauma. They can be likened to wounded children within us, carrying feelings of shame, fear, or loneliness. Since they hold deep hurt, Exiles often hide away, but they can get triggered in times of stress. IFS work can help “unburden” Exiles by listening to them and healing past pain.

3. Managers: Managers are proactive, protective parts that try to keep us safe by preventing painful feelings from surfacing. They work hard to control our environment, ensuring stability and minimizing vulnerability. Managers can show up as perfectionism, people-pleasing, or self-criticism, all aimed at keeping Exiles safely buried.

4. Firefighters: When Exiles’ pain breaks through, Firefighters jump into action to extinguish intense feelings, often in more reactive ways. They may encourage impulsive actions like overeating, substance use, or avoidance to numb the discomfort. Firefighters don’t have a long-term plan they’re just focused on putting out the fire.

These parts can sometimes conflict. For example, Managers may try to stay controlled and cautious, while Firefighters might act out in the heat of the moment. The goal of IFS is for Self to understand each part’s good intentions, which helps harmonize their roles, quieting internal conflicts and promoting a sense of balance and wholeness.

Here’s a 6 min visual reviewing the 4 IFS components