New cryptoculture.info Discord Mindful Message! 10.23.24

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Yesterday “Recognize the Patterns” was the first out of four things we reviewed that could help us break the cycles in our lives. Identifying patterns is key to breaking the cycle of emotional reactions that can harm our well-being. Here’s how we can spot the patterns and begin to shift our perspective:

1. Emotional Overreaction

What it looks like: We find ourselves getting overly upset, hurt, or defensive when someone makes a comment or takes an action that we perceive as a personal attack.

How to spot it: Ask ourselves, “Are we reacting stronger than the situation warrants?” For example, if a friend cancels plans, do we immediately think they don’t value us, even though they might just be busy?

2. Negative Self-Talk

What it looks like: We internalize criticism or perceived slights as evidence of our inadequacies. We might say things like “I’m not good enough,” or “I always mess things up.”

How to spot it: Notice the stories we tell ourselves after an encounter. If we spiral into self-criticism or self-blame, we’re likely taking things personally.

3. Constant Comparison

What it looks like: We compare ourselves to others and take it personally when someone else succeeds, thinking their achievements highlight our shortcomings.

How to spot it: When others share good news, does it trigger feelings of inadequacy or jealousy, instead of happiness for them?

4. Assuming Negative Intent

What it looks like: We believe that other people’s actions or words are intentionally meant to hurt or target us personally.

How to spot it: When someone gives feedback or makes a comment, do we automatically assume they’re trying to criticize or attack us?

5. Seeking Validation

What it looks like: We rely heavily on others’ approval or praise to feel good about ourselves. When we don’t get it, we feel rejected or undervalued.

How to spot it: Do we feel upset or less confident when someone doesn’t acknowledge our work, or when we don’t receive positive feedback?

6. Taking Criticism to Heart

What it looks like: Instead of seeing feedback as constructive, we see it as a personal attack on our abilities or worth.

How to spot it: If someone offers advice or critique, do we feel like it’s an attack on who we are, rather than our work or behavior?

By recognizing these patterns, we can start challenging them. Ask ourselves, Is this really about us, or is this more about their experience and perspective? Shifting this mindset helps break the harmful cycle of taking things personally and fosters a healthier, more resilient outlook.

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